More on thankfulness: thankfulness as a lifestyle
Thanksgiving is a Posture
More on thankfulness: thankfulness as a lifestyle
More on thankfulness: thankfulness as a lifestyle
Perspective dictates how we see things. Change perspective, and we may see things differently.
Take for example the photo at the top of this blog. If you are reading this after I have replaced the header photo, let me describe it. For anyone reading this with the photo still there, bear with me. The photo shows beautiful blue, green, aqua water that is as inviting as any photo of a great vacation spot on a sandy beach in a tropical paradise. Only, the photo was taken by me at Pictured Rocks State Park in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan along the shores of Lake Superior. Even in the middle of summer, the water is about 55º Fahrenheit.
The water does not look so inviting now, does it?
During the “Thanksgiving season” I see people posting thankful messages on Facebook. After a while, it becomes a little blasé. Big deal. The nonconformist in me shudders at the thought of posting similar thankful thoughts.
At other times of the year, the expressions of thanksgiving are not nearly as free-flowing. People who often express thankfulness are seen as those “shiny happy people” – not like the rest of us. If we are being honest, we would probably assume that these people have not had life nearly as tough as the rest of us. These are people who were probably born into privilege. They probably have not faced tragedies and difficulties in their lives like most other people. Maybe they are just naïve and not smart enough to think about the pain in the world. Maybe they are willfully ignorant of it. They just are not normal.
I am sure that I am oversimplifying and overstating what “we” feel. Perhaps, we just do not think about it. That is good for them; I am not like that.
Maybe these people know something we do not know. Consider what scientists have learned about happiness in the video at the top of this post. What do you think?
Dust in the Wind by Kansas was an anthem of my youth. “Don’t hang on, nothing last forever but the earth and sky.” It has the air of youthful wisdom: live for the moment; you only live once! “All we are is dust in the wind.”
I have seen photos of my grandfather in the 1930’s, when he was a youth. There was a certain exuberance in his eyes, a seize-life-by-the-tail attitude behind that shock of curly hair. It was a tough time, but you would not know it by the youthful grin.
My grandparents lived frugally and modestly, but they enjoyed life. My grandfather worked at one place his whole life. He walked to work every day. They had one car. He began as an office boy for Kroehler Furniture in Naperville, IL, and he retired as the head auditor of the whole company. He worked hard. He prepared tax returns during “tax season”. My grandmother was the mother hen, caring for everyone, making the meals, cleaning, always moving. They loved each other clearly. They went dancing every Friday night with a local “dance club” and played bridge in a local bridge club. They probably enjoyed family gatherings the most, and they took many vacations in their later years.
I noticed, even as a young child, that they found joy in the smallest of details, and they could talk about the mundane matters of life, like the price of gas or how the last hand of Pitch (a family card game) played out, as if they were discussing treasures and archeological finds. It was not just small talk. They found thrills in the little things of everyday life. They looked back with fondness and forward with brave anticipation, and they lived in the moments in between.
I am not sure they thought much about the meaning of life. At least, they never talked about those things. They talked about everything else. They went to Catholic mass every Sunday. I think they found meaning in everything they did, but I am not sure they could have, or would have, defined that meaning. They just lived it.
“[T]here is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God.” (Eccl. 3:13)
That pretty much sums up what I remember of my grandparents. I believe they saw life for the gift it is, toil and all, and found happiness in it as the writer of Ecclesiastes suggested we should thousands of years ago.
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die….” (Eccl. 3:1-2)
My last memories of my grandfather were grim. He had the excruciating pain of cancer in his eyes. He bravely faced it, without complaint, like he ventured into adulthood in the middle of the Great Depression. My grandparents, my father’s parents, lived every moment in their lives; they drank life up, but the end of life came hard. Cancer took my grandfather in a short cruel time, and my grandmother lapsed into the pain of loneliness and memory loss, slowly fading over years into her last days.
Now they have peace from that pain; but the joy of their lives is gone now – “dust in the wind”.
There is “a time to be born and a time to die” and what happens in between is like “dust in the wind” as the 1970’s Kansas anthem goes. The life we live is real in the moment, but the moments go by all too quickly, and they are just wisps of memory that will fade out of mind when we are gone.
One response to that reality is to chase the thrills of life while we can. I saw a man recently at a community event who I knew years ago. He seemed old when I first met him, but he was living the thrill life, wearing the bandanas still that he wore in his youth that hid the grey balding crown under the weathered face of a biker who had seen more than his share of good times. He had lived hard and fast. When I saw him recently, the bandana still covered is is white frock of hair, but he was noticeably much older. When he caught my eye again, a couple of hours later, it was due to the commotion caused as he stumbled out of a port-a-potty. He fell to the ground and was unable to get up. Four or five men helped him with difficulty to his feet where he swayed unsteadily, dazed, a distant look in his eyes. He was taken away by ambulance.
I am reminded of another white-haired man nearing the end of this life. He sits in the third row at church every Sunday with his wife and a number of younger family members, a different mix every week. Every week when the singing ends and people are excused, he makes his way to a chair in the hall and sits there waiting for eyes to meet his, to offer his hand in greeting, to engage in conversation. He has a quick wit and wry smile. He will joke and offer a story from his long life. Stories of his wife, filled with humor. Stories of WWII, which he fought in the Pacific. Most people pass him without making eye contact, but he is content. His family is his legacy. He has an air about him that he knows where is going. The path is now short.
Is it better to stumble into the great beyond or to walk gracefully, contentedly into it? What hope is there in this life? The writer of Ecclesiastes offers this: “[God] has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart….” (Eccl. 3:11)
If God has put into eternity into our hearts, the fleeting and seeming meaninglessness of this life would be a cruel joke if there was not something better beyond.
Kansas is still singing Dust in the Wind, at least for now. The group is noticeably aged. Their individual songs will come to an end, as each of our songs will end, at least for now. The song may be an anthem for youth anticipation, but it hardly seems anthem-like as the days of life wane.
Kerry Livgren, the original lead guitarist for Kansas, became a Christian in 1979, after Kansas introduced Dust in the Wind to the world. Here is an interview from 1980. Livgren has continued to make music, among other things, but he found the Creator in the days of his youth, and he has lived a different life ever since. (http://www.numavox.com/us.htm)
Remember your Creator
in the days of your youth,
before the days of trouble come
and the years approach when you will say,
“I find no pleasure in them”
….
Remember him—before the silver cord is severed,
and the golden bowl is broken;
before the pitcher is shattered at the spring,
and the wheel broken at the well,
and the dust returns to the ground it came from,
and the spirit returns to God who gave it.
When the dust of our bones returns to the earth, those who remembered the Creator in the days of their youth and throughout life will gladly submit their spirits to the God who gave them life. If all we are is dust in the wind, we might as well live for the momentary thrills and stumble into our graves; but if God, Himself, placed eternity in our hearts, we await a different ending…. and a new beginning.
I met with an estate planning client today to review and finalize their estate planning documents. We made small talk as copies of the signed documents were being made about the differences between kids growing up now and when we were young.
We have all read the summaries of “the way it used to be” that are floating around social media on the Internet. They are usually nostalgic looks back with some unspoken angst about the different way kids grow up today. The topic of discussion with my clients today focused on the way we used to organize our own when we were kids, compared to the organized sports and other activities that kids experience now.
Most everything is organized for kids today by adults. There were some organized activities in years gone by, like little league and scouts, but most of the time that we spent as children involved finding ways to organize and entertain ourselves. We would wear the treads off of our bike tires seeking out friends to play with and things to do. Boys would organize impromptu baseball and football games, playing games of 500 and “smear the queer” (we were not very politically correct, and we played hard). We would build towns in sandboxes and play army on dirt mounds and find a million different adventures and things to keep ourselves busy. Girls would play hopscotch, and house and so on. We would organize neighborhood games like kick the can, and red rover, and flashlight tag. We played games that had no names that we made up, sometimes on the spot.
Kids today do not know what to do with themselves. They expect to be entertained. They expect for someone to organize them. They fill their time up with cable TV, Xbox, YouTube and other forms of entertainment.
I suggested to one of my sons one day when he said he was bored that he organize a neighborhood football game. He looked blankly at me, not knowing the first place to start. I told him how we would do that when I was young and left him to his own devices. An hour or two later, I saw him and a few of his friends standing in the front yard with their football gear on from the organized youth football league, staring just as blankly, looking awkward, not knowing what to do. They never did play a game of football that day. The attempt fizzled.
Our kids are used to having their lives organized by others and, perhaps, have less initiative to do things themselves as a result. My mother did not know where I was much of my youth, and that would have been true for most parents then. Now, we keep close tabs on our children.
I recently read that “millennials” (as I am told the current generation is called) are less likely to have a driver’s license by the time that they are 18 than past generations. The statistical image in this blog article states that over 30% of millennials still live at home. The Pew Research Center reports the percentage at 36% and a whopping 56% for 18-24 year olds! I did not know anyone who lived at home after the age of 18 when I was age 18, unless they were returning home for the summer from college. (Of course, my memory may be just a little old.)
Can we really blame though? After all, we raised them!
Stripping away the elaborate arguments and the science, there are only two ultimate possibilities: 1) the universe is all there is, all there ever was and all there ever will be; or 2) there is something outside the universe, other than the universe, that created the universe. Frank Turek addresses this fundamental issue in responding to the questions of a young atheist. You can listen to the nine minute exchange here.
If anyone can think of a third possibility, please respond.
A common question asked by people who do not believe in the existence of God is this: if God created the universe, who or what created God? The answer for the believer, of course, is that God is the uncreated creator, the unmoving mover, the uncaused cause; He exists outside of time, space and matter. The unbeliever basically retorts, “How do you know that?”
The answer is that we really do not “know” by personal knowledge or by scientific method or experiments that we can observe.. We were not there when the universe, time and space came into existence or was created.
We do know that the universe did not always exist.
What we know is this. The second law of thermodynamics suggests that the universe is running down; there is an inherent tendency towards the dissipation of energy. This is called entropy. (See here for a theistic extrapolation of the Second law of Thermodynamics.) It takes energy for matter to go from the simple to the complex; and without a source of energy, matter breaks down from the complex to the simple; it dissapates. Energy does not go away; it just evens out. The Universe appears to be winding down; so how did it wind up (or who wound it up)?
Of course, scientists who believe that evolution explains the origins of life will argue that entropy does not make evolution impossible (only improbable). They will argue that energy from the sun was sufficient to transform single cells to more complex structures and, eventually, life sprang into being. Though energy may be evening out and the reactions of energy to cause things to happen are decreasing in intensity, they are (or were) sufficiently strong to cause the reaction of life to spring into being and to sustain evolution over millions of years.
But all of this really begs the fundamental question: what caused the initial energy that caused the transformation of simple to complex matter. What caused the cause (to borrow from the athiests who ask, “Who created God?”)
That brings us to another point: the Universe is expanding. This fact is now almost undisputed. The Universe came from a single point. The Universe had a beginning.
In 1965, Penzias & Wilson discovered the “radiation afterglow”, which is the smoking gun to “the big bang”, consisting of remnant heat from an initial explosion of energy. (See Afterglow of the Big Bang.) Stephen Hawking called it the “discovery of the century, if not of all time”; Nobel Prize winner, George Smoot, described it “like seeing the face of God”. (See Physics. Org) (Smoot did not mean by that to say that there is a God.)
Scientists have also found “galaxy seeds” that are believed to be the “primordial seeds” from which the present galaxies grew. (See the May 1, 1992, article by Jeffrey Kahn and the May 24, 2002, Scientific American.) They did not always exist. Einstein’s theory of relativity shows that time, space and matter are correlative; they came into existence together; they had a beginning.
These accepted scientific theories all indicate that the Universe had a beginning; it did not always exist.
That brings us back to the two possibilities…. actually, it leaves us only one possibility: the universe was caused or created.
If the Universe began at some point, where did it come from? What caused it? Who created it?. People like Christopher Hitchens who scoff at theists can only offer that the Universe caused itself, it was caused by another Universe, which was caused by another Universe, and so on, which is simply kicking the can down the road (or back up the road, if you will).
Christians and other theists, of course, believe that something other than the Universe had to have caused the Universe.
Which point seems more plausible?
We are straining to see and know what there is to know about the Universe. But, what can we know of what is out of our reach, out of our realm of existence, outside the Universe in which we find ourselves?
Scientists, atheists and materialists are correct: we cannot “know” of something that is outside the realm in which we exist, and neither can they.
We exist in a realm of time, space and matter that all had a beginning. From our position in that time, space and matter universe, how can we know of anything beyond it by our own doing?
I can only think of one possibility: we cannot know of it unless it is revealed to us.
We tend to cling to the human capacity to know and understand. If we cannot see it and test it, we are not willing to believe it. In fact, many of us may not be open to the possibility that the causer, the creator, of this world might be “knocking at the door”. If there is a God who exists outside of time, space and matter, that God would have to reveal Himself to us. He may even be knocking at your door.
This blog is about finding perspective. Finding perspective is the process of gaining a vantage point and putting things in context.
Perspective is how we categorize all things political, emotional, cultural, sociological, historical and personal. Learning new perspectives broadens understanding. New perspectives lead to discoveries. Perspectives inform and shape worldviews.
The goal of this blog is to take new look at old themes, exploring angles, focusing and refocusing, “drilling down” to exam the trees and taking a step back to see the forest. Please feel free to join in and lend your own perspective.
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